Sort out the three conversations
Stop arguing about who's right: explore each other's stories
Don't assume they meant it: disentangle intent from impact
Abandon blame: map the contribution system
Have your feelings (or they will have you)
Ground your identity: ask yourself what's at stake
What's your purpose?: when to raise it and when to let go
Getting started: begin from the third story
Learning: listen from the inside out
Expression: speak for yourself with clarity and power
Problem-solving: take the lead
Putting it all together
Ten questions people ask about difficult conversations
A road map to Difficult conversations.